Friday, February 28
Proverbs 27:6 (Passion Translation)
You can trust a friend who wounds you with his honesty, but your enemy’s pretended flattery comes from insincerity.
When it comes to relationships, there is growing tendency among people today not to seek the kind of friendships that will truly challenge and grow them. Many people will fail to develop true and meaningful relationships because pride and insecurity will not allow others to speak truth into their lives. A true and trustworthy friend will love you enough to be honest with you. Even if what they have to say is painful at the moment. Think about it like this. When the doctor tells you that you have an issue that needs to be addressed and removed form your body you don’t, in most cases, get mad at them and walk away. No, you accept the prognosis and trust that doctor to put you on a path to wellness. Why then, when a trusted friend, or spouse, comes to you out of love, seeking your best interests, would you be angry and sever ties with them. Those who know you best, if allowed to, will point out character or behavioral issues that could lead you into a potential mess if not addressed. They don’t enjoy bringing these things to your attention but they love you enough to step up say something about them. In fact, if you’re a true friend to them, you would do the same in return. Love doesn’t hide from the things that can harm you, it reaches out to pull you out of harms way, even at the risk of misunderstanding and anger. No one is perfect, but when you keep the right kind of company around you, those relationships you develop can draw you closer to that place Christlikeness. The next time a spouse or friend comes to you with a concern or question, receive them with love and openness. Even if what concerns them turns out to be a misunderstanding on their part, the fact that they loved you enough to reach out shows the true friend that they want to be to you. – Love and Blessings, Pastor Jeff