Wednesday, February 26
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.
When it comes to relationships, especially covenant relationships like a marriage or very close friendships, it’s important to remember that these relationships cannot become your source of happiness or fulfillment. Many a relationship has been unnecessarily damaged or even destroyed because one or both of the people involved have put the other in the unfair position of being their source of happiness. It is unfair to place that kind of weight and pressure on someone. You see, while God built you with a need for companionship, He never intended for the need to be fulfilled by anyone other than Himself. When you try to fill a God-sized space with anything or anyone other than God Himself you will be severely disappointed. What inevitably happens next is that you become angry or even hostile toward the person who you wrongly placed in that position. Thus the relationship becomes strained and, if the issue is not addressed, it comes to ruin. All the while, the real victim is not you, but the one who you unfairly put in God’s place. Do you constantly feel like people are letting you down? Do you find yourself unhealthily clinging to others to fulfill desires that can only be met by God? If so, ask the Holy Spirit to fill you with Himself. Bring those empty places that you’ve tried to fill with your spouse, your kids, your parents, or relationships and ask Him to inhabit those areas Himself. Finding your delight in Him will release you to love others in a way that brings you security and fulfillment as well as impart life into the relationships that God put in your life. You are the only person responsible for your happiness. It’s time to let everyone else of the hook. – Love and Blessings, Pastor Jeff