READER QUESTION: I was excited to read your column about married monograms! My fiancé and I are getting married at our church this coming November, and I’ve already picked out a couple of cute monogrammed pieces for our future home. I would like our programs for our wedding to have our monogram at the top, but my mom said I’m not supposed to use it yet. Isn’t it okay to use it on our wedding day? The whole point is that we’re getting married.
EMILY’S ANSWER: I understand your excitement, but your mom is correct. The first time a couple should debut their new married monogram is at the reception (or at the very end of the wedding, provided they have a way to do it only then and not before the vows are said). Prior to this, you both are still unmarried. Instead of the program, maybe the cocktail napkins at the reception or on the projection screen (if your church has one) when you’re officially announced as Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so. Also, best wishes!
READER QUESTION:Do you have any good gift ideas for the person who has everything, as well as the means to buy anything they could possibly want? A dear friend’s birthday is quickly approaching, and I’m at a loss on what to give. We’ve been friends for over forty years, so our friendship is very special to me, and I want to convey that adequately.
EMILY’S ANSWER: While we know the adage of “it’s the thought that counts” is true, it’s also a great feeling to give a gift someone truly enjoys. That being said, I’m a believer in experiences over things. This is a value we try to pass down to our children for birthdays and holidays, as well. Try to personalize your gift in a way that is unique. If they are a reader, consider donating a book in her honor to the public library. If you know her alma mater, you could do a similar donation in her name there. If she enjoys music, seek out a local artist to go enjoy together. If she’s a foodie, try a new restaurant for dinner and a different one for dessert. The time you get to spend together will mean a lot to your friend!